Your Relationship with Money: Let’s Have Some Real Girl Talk
Ladies, gather around, grab your favorite drink (whether it's a glass of wine or that spiced chai latte), and let’s dive deep into a topic we often tiptoe around - our relationship with money. Yes, you heard that right. It's like any other relationship; it has its ups, downs, and sometimes, it’s... complicated.
The “Money Talk” we never had
We grow up learning algebra and the intricacies of Shakespearean plays, but how many of us were schooled on managing our finances or understanding the emotional relationship we have with our wallet? Not many, I bet. And that's where the heart of the matter lies. Our relationship with money isn’t just about numbers and bank balances; it's deeply emotional, shaped by years of experiences and societal narratives.
It’s not just about spending and saving
Our financial habits often mirror our beliefs. Ever found yourself hesitating to invest in that personal development course or feeling guilty about buying that slightly pricey dress? This isn't just about budgeting; it's about the value we assign to ourselves. The money decisions we make often stem from deep-rooted beliefs, sometimes ones we aren’t even consciously aware of.
Unpacking financial baggage
Like any relationship, our bond with money can carry baggage. From watching our parents manage finances to societal pressures whispering what we "should" have achieved by a certain age, these memories and experiences shape our monetary mindset. It’s essential to reflect, understand, and if necessary, break these patterns.
Steps to rekindle the money love
Understanding Your Money Story
Reflect on your earliest memories associated with money. Was it a tool for growth or a source of stress? Recognizing these patterns is the first step toward building a healthier relationship.
Open Conversations
Yes, girl, talk it out! Whether it’s with friends over brunch or a financial advisor, discussing money breaks the taboo and makes the journey less lonely.
Educate Yourself
Knowledge is power. Understand basic financial principles. From saving, investing, to understanding debts, empower yourself with information.
Set Clear Boundaries
Like any relationship, setting boundaries is essential. Create a budget, understand your limits, and respect them.
Practice Self-love
Invest in yourself. Whether it's a course, a book, or even a spa day, recognize that you are worth it.
Seek Professional Guidance if Needed
If you feel overwhelmed, consider seeking a financial advisor. It's okay to ask for help.
Affirmations for a healthy money mindset
Changing our relationship with money isn’t an overnight task. It’s a journey, and like any journey, it's essential to stay positive. Here are some affirmations to guide you:
Money is a tool, not a reflection of my self-worth.
I am capable of making informed financial decisions.
Every penny spent on my growth is a worthy investment.
I am deserving of financial security and abundance.
Sis, as you navigate this path, remember you're not alone. The key is to be gentle with yourself, continuously learn, and always strive for a balanced, healthy relationship with your finances.
It's high time we, as women, reclaim our financial narratives. Let’s shift the conversation from anxiety to empowerment. Let’s make our money work for us, fuel our dreams, and build a future we're excited about.
So the next time you check your bank balance or hesitate over a purchase, pause and reflect on your relationship with money.
Cheers,
Ash
She’s Curated Head Coach
